Melissa Rauch Announces She’s Pregnant After Suffering a Miscarriage: Watch Now
Melissa Rauch made a big announcement Tuesday: She’s pregnant with her first child! In an essay, the actress detailed her long road to motherhood..!
Melissa doesn’t like the term “miscarriage,” which she believes “deserves to be ranked as one of the worst, most blame-inducing medical terms ever. To me, it immediately conjures up an implication that it was the woman’s fault, like she somehow ‘mishandled the carrying of this baby.’ F that so hard, right in its patriarchal nut-sack. It’s not that a better name would make it less awful to go through. But for a while, my husband and I just started saying to each other—without any judgment or acrimony to the baby, of course—that the baby ‘bailed’ instead.”
In those moments, Melissa said she would “feel guilt and shame” for being jealous of other women. “I’ve always been one to keep my eyes on my own paper, but when it came to having a baby, that proved to be a challenge. So when I thought about having to share the news about expecting this baby, all I could think about was another woman mourning over her loss as I did, worried she would never get pregnant again, and reading about my little bundle on the way,” she wrote. “It felt a bit disingenuous to not also share the struggle it took for me to get here.”
It didn’t help when people would often ask Melissa when she planned to procreate. “Before any of us ask a woman about popping out a baby, let’s think to ourselves: We don’t know what she’s going through, what her body is capable of, or what she personally desires. Whether a woman wants to have children or not, if she wants to share that information, she will,” she said..!
It comes from a well-meaning, good place,” she said. “My hope is that if we as a society become more aware of how common fertility struggles are, perhaps we won’t be so cavalier in questioning females about what’s on their baby agenda.”
Melissa said the experience has changed her irrecoverably. “I know it’s made me grateful for every moment of my current pregnancy, and I hope it will make me a better mother in some capacity when I can finally hold the child that has been in my heart in my arms. Although I can’t categorize these lessons of humble appreciation and gratitude as ‘reasons for this happening,’ I will consider them a silver lining.
(But to be honest, I would’ve much preferred to learn said lessons from either a fortune cookie or by watching a few heartfelt reruns of Full House.) So, to all the women out there who are dealing with fertility issues, have gone through a miscarriage or are going through the pain of it currently, allow me to leave you with this message: You are not alone,” said Melissa, who’s due this year. “And, it is perfectly OK to not be OK right now.”